Comments on: two gifts for your children: roots and wings

By: Cameron

Cameron — Wed, 12 Jul 2006 14:58:32 +0000

I find the comments on the origin of the saying, “You can give your children but two things, one is roots and the other wings.” very interesting. I used this, with some critical acclaim, as a parental toast at my daughters wedding. Roots from the parents; wings as permission, but largely influenced by their peer group as they get older. At this point in their life they don’t listen to us much – that’s why the roots are so important! Anyway, I understand a former presidential press secretary, Hodding Carter – I believe, to be credited with the saying.(?) Anyone have any other theories?

By: briconcella

briconcella — Tue, 02 May 2006 14:28:25 +0000

This is exactly what I told myself when my son was born, 17 years ago, because I had plenty of wings and no roots. But don’t expect too much. Children have their own personality and that’s it. He has, despite all my efforts, leaden roots, like many of his contemporaries, and I am still waiting to see the wings sprout.[disclosure: it is of course my fault].

By: Ken

Ken — Tue, 02 May 2006 09:31:12 +0000

Would your family be Unitarian Universalist perhaps? The phrase appears in the UU hymn “Spirit of Life,” and has been adopted by many UU churches as the name of their religious education programs for children.

“Spirit of life, come unto me
Sing in my heart, all the stirrings of compassion
Blow in the wind, rise in the sea
Move in the hand, giving life the shape of justice
Roots hold me close, wings set me free
Spirit of life, come to me, come to me

(Caroline McDade, 1978)

By: mr.f

mr.f — Tue, 02 May 2006 08:16:32 +0000

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By: Carlo

Carlo — Tue, 02 May 2006 07:57:31 +0000

That is so inspiring, and I thank my parents for giving me both.

The “wings” reminds me of this poem by Georgia Douglas Johnson that I heard at a Yale open house (before they rejected me =p):

Your World

Your world is as big as you make it
I know, for I used to abide
In the narrowest nest in a corner
My wings pressing close to my side

But I sighted the distant horizon
Where the sky-line encircled the sea
And I throbbed with a burning desire
To travel this immensity.

I battered the cordons around me
And cradled my wings on the breeze
Then soared to the uttermost reaches
with rapture, with power, with ease!

By: Scott

Scott — Tue, 02 May 2006 07:45:54 +0000

Being the child of two highly over protective parents, I couldn’t agree more.

While there are things in this world that are dangerous and we can’t change, there are a multitude of things are worth taking risks for and that we can change.

Life is too short to constantly live in fear or feel unequipped to make a difference in your own life or the lives of others.

By: rodders

rodders — Tue, 02 May 2006 05:40:55 +0000

I live in the country. I make my living from online. My kids play outside most days. My kids are gaming addicts. This father’s advice is sink those roots deep in real dirt and lift those wings on real air. A life online is not properly alive.

By: Bob

Bob — Mon, 01 May 2006 21:21:37 +0000

Hmmm, the category for this post is “myspace”. So are we to believe that you’re equating myspace to wings? I would think that wings would be something far less vacuous.