Comments on: on sex education

By: raman

raman — Tue, 07 Apr 2009 01:00:23 +0000

I think that phisiology is what gives young people idea about sex.

By: Jake

Jake — Thu, 22 Feb 2007 13:27:18 +0000

I am constantly appalled by the corrosive nature of sexuality as presented by the media to teens. The way that women are completely objectified and degraded by popular music and advertising is an outrage.
We have nice sterile discussions about the statistics of teenage sexual behavior while completely ignoring the psychological and spiritual ramifications of surrounding girls with the message that their entire worth as humans is based on what they look like in a bikini (or less!) and how “freeeky” they can be in bed. Obviously “it’s a free country” but where are the voices advocating for the freedom of girls and women to live life without the expectation that they will engage in whatever sexual behavior seems appealing to their partner at the time.
The feminist movement righted a lot of cultural wrongs but watching MTV almost makes one yearn for the days when it was a societal norm to actually respect women enough to open a door for them, or at least refrain from grinding your pubic regions on their bodies.
All I am saying is that in the midst of the debate about safe sex vs abstinence there has got to be a discussion of the value of traditional sexual norms when it comes to giving women the chance to make real and informed decisions about sexuality.

By: Joe

Joe — Sun, 19 Feb 2006 11:49:43 +0000

I think that phisiology is what gives young people idea about sex.

By: Joseph Hunkins

Joseph Hunkins — Fri, 17 Feb 2006 10:58:48 +0000

BOTH abstinence and safe sex education are “no brainers” and both are called for in both a moral and a pragmatic sense.

Yet….as usual the polarization of the debate obscures the obvious solutions.

By: Alex Schroeder

Alex Schroeder — Tue, 31 Jan 2006 05:04:47 +0000

One of the most popular magazines amongst the German speaking teens when I was young was Bravo. It had pop stars, pop music, and sex education in the form of (mostly fake, I assume) letters sent to magazine. I just checked — they still exist, and they’re online. The part about Dr. Sommer’s sex education might not be workplace safe, depending on your workplace. Anyway, I first heard about Bravo when I was about eight, and I started reading copies of friends at maybe thirteen. Remembering those days, those fake letters set expectations: Some seemed to have sex starting at the age of fifteen or sixteen. I had to wait until I was nineteen and felt left out until then. Maybe that helps to explain the background some of us are coming from.

By: zephoria

zephoria — Fri, 27 Jan 2006 10:30:06 +0000

For those who aren’t aware, abstinence education is not just a voluntary thing. Most schools these days are NOT allowed to teach safer sex, they’re not allowed to teach about condoms or other prevention issues that assume kids are sexually active. While there are certainly kids who are abstinent, but frankly, the vast majority are not. Even in Christian communities. And the thing is that this is not a new thing. While the age of first sexual encounter has dropped, the percentage of kids engaging in sexual acts before 18 hasn’t really increased in 50 years. The biggest difference is that the age of sexual maturation has also dropped (ah, nutrition and lipids).

Pledges are one thing; mandatory abstinence education is another. And while i love hearing stories of adults having had candid sex talk at school, it’s important to realize that is now over. Parents are now suing schools for doing that.

By: Michael

Michael — Fri, 27 Jan 2006 08:59:54 +0000

What’s particularly interesting to me is the recent outcry over relatively safe teenage sexual behaviors like oral sex. Abstinence is promoted as a way to avoid STDs and pregnancy but it’s really a way for parents to either deny or delay their children’s sexual maturity. Thinking about their kids having sex makes parents as queasy and kids thinking about their parents having sex.

US abstinence pledges occur among Christians outside of urban areas. Obviously, most US teenagers do not take abstinence pledges, even those that are abstaining from sex. European newspapers and television sensationalize US abstinence pledges.

By: B

Fri, 27 Jan 2006 07:31:22 +0000

Wow: this time, I won’t necessarily agree…

I don’t know about abstinence education in USA, but if it is promoted by the same people that favour Intelligent Design, I understand there is a problem there.

My Sex Ed included far more details than teenagers could expect, including some statistics about how long it took on average for each partner to be aroused—and an estimation of how many couples could not be both satisfied without “additional care”. (Yes, that involves comparing two log-normal distributions; we were, like, twelve year-olds; did I mention I was in a demanding and math-oriented high-school? Hey, what reaction do you expect from students of an all-boy environnement? We were fleeing the news and running into something we knew better.)

Besides from the calculus-obsession of the pupils, the education involved testimonies, most very much into the line of Pope Benedict’s recent book: love, as in fellings, is more important than love, as in making. I mostly remember a bishop telling us about what he heard during wedding preparation:
” – I’m here to talk about sex and marriage, but I have no legitimity for that: I never tried either!
- However, you couldn’t imagine how people are obsessed with sex nowadays, and how often they come to me to look for councelling;
- Once, a young bride (anonymous, no breach of secrecy there) told me she had sex with another person, prior to meeting her groom; she couldn’t help comparing: I can only hope you will never have to compare.”

That was not as much a “do as Church tells you to” approach than a “we have been questionned on this matter since the Adulterous Woman (“He who hath not sinned…”) and Saint Paul (check 1Co, an answer to “Why can we go to brothels?”) and we have developped a very careful view on it” message. I like the fact that he insisted on telling us he only met people who wanted to hear a religious voice, a certain bias; he also said he couldn’t tell about those who choose an ecctic life. What I kept —tell me if this was bad advice, there is still time before I marry— was: Love is not always complex, but it can be painful; go plain and simple, and go softly and slowly.

I don’t kown about publicly claiming abstinence: it is something obvious for most of my friends, and because of the shape of social structure here, most people I meet figure this one out right away. In any case, I would be very concerned to come across frowning in any direction.

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@ p@:
“could anyone suggest resources that one could use to compare teen pregnancy rates in High School with income levels per the demographics of particular districts?”

Look for Freakonomics, or the academic work of Steven D. Levitt: a Chicago view on the question. I would say more nuanced than what I was afraid of—but very utilitarian in its interpratations. At least, he has data.

By: Matthew Purdon

Matthew Purdon — Thu, 26 Jan 2006 14:43:21 +0000

I think sex education should also include discussions not just about contraception, but intimacy and relationship. There’s a lot of sex activity that is driven by trying to fill the hole of emptiness and alienation instead of arising out of connection and intimacy.

By: p@

p@ — Thu, 26 Jan 2006 14:04:56 +0000

“Not so much morality as grinding poverty.” – jim

i think that’s really onto something. could anyone suggest resources that one could use to compare teen pregnancy rates in High School with income levels per the demographics of particular districts? i wonder if there is any obvious relation…

does anyone know of any research that has already been done on this? any criticisms or suggestions on how to generate a better picture of this problem rather than using such a broad, analytic-statistical approach?

in response to: “I’m constantly perturbed that we’re teaching abstinence instead of safe sex because we refuse to acknowledge that teens are having sex.” – above in post

when i was in school (texas), our sex ed consisted of a basic overview of the mechanics of sexual reproduction. this i believe was in the 5th grade. 9th grade health class i remember being more involved in covering STD’s and various health effects involved with sexual activity. in retrospect, i consider the curriculum to have been a very P.C.-friendly approach to the issue. does today’s curriculum differ greatly from this model?

does anyone know if abstinence programs are being adopted on a state level curriculum planning, or do they tend to be imposed by the districts?