Comments on: Why do you articulate your relationships?

By: Damian Spaulding

Damian Spaulding — Fri, 08 Jul 2005 22:16:38 +0000

I am the CEO of an extremely fast growing software company named Darwin Productions. Our leading edge design team has now released a relatively new and extremely powerful ERP tool that truly puts every other ERP software package on the market to shame.
Our proven (what we call) “GBM” Global Business Management software goes further than any ERP system on the market today and integrates absolutely every part of business; even including complete eCommerce system integration – No server or information separation needed. As you all know whenever two systems meet, you tend to experience a pile up of work or cost in some way. We have developed a truly affordable tool that rarely needs custom integration and can easily facilitate every need of multinational businesses and even scale down to a one person operation. I need not say it but I will our application is truly revolutionary.
If you are curious, feel free to visit: http://darwinproductions.net or http://theevolutionofbusiness.com.
Evolution (our software) completely integrates:
Project management, appointment management, eCommerce customer management, inventory management, warehouse and shipping management, document management, email, accounting suppliers, office security, network backup redundancies, Human Resources and other areas that right now are simply slipping my mind. I would love to hear your thoughts; feel free to email me.

By: Anony

Anony — Mon, 29 Nov 2004 12:08:27 +0000

I have once–and only once–”friended” someone that I do not personally know and personally like. I did this as a (admittedly, not very useful) gesture because this person is a friend of many friends and someone I have met only once and was not favorably impressed by. In an attempt to deflect the assumption that I “hate” this person, I added him to a friends list, but it has had no effect.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Sun, 28 Nov 2004 02:06:03 +0000

There are problems though. I know you’ve thought about these, but I just have to add my latest uncomfortable moments to the list. Anonymously

On Flickr, I just noticed my ex has signed up. So has his best friend, a man with whom I’ve kept up a precarious “sure we’re still friends” thing with purely through monthly AIM chats in the two years since the breakup with my ex. In these chats I carefully don’t say anything about my love life and don’t ask anything about my ex because I just don’t want that connection. Anyway, the ex’s best friend made me his Flickr contact. He’d marked me as a “friend” – so I felt obligated to make him a friend back. Until I started looking at his photos – he hadn’t posted many, and NONE of his photos were friends only. I, on the other hand, post far more friends only than public photos, and they include lots of personal stuff, my family, my friends, my boyfriend. The thought of my ex’s best friend getting access to that was horrendous. Yet how RUDE to tell him that he wasn’t my friend when he said I was his. I ended up de-friending him in Flickr, but hated the explicitness of this. In AIM I can leave him on my buddy list and keep the monthly chats short and still kind of be friends.

A month or so earlier, I’d invited my boyfriend to join Flickr. I marked him as “friends & family” since I wanted him to be able to see all my photos. He joined and marked me only as “friends” which made me kind of sad, a bit, and then worried that I’d been too pushy in marking him as “family”. I de-familied him, and then two months later, he marked me as family, started a friends-only photoset with photos of my with a sweet description and (!) started adding photos of me to his family set of photos. I was stunned, and really touched, obviously made him “friends and family” again and then started thinking about how to integrate him more in my more personal photosets which I’d developed entirely so that I could keep him OUT of my family sets because I thought that would make him anxious.

Yes, it’s kind of silly, but these are things that become so explicit it’s hard to deal with sometimes…

The third story hasn’t happened yet, thank god. I have an amicable relationship with my child’s father, thank goodness (uh, this is a previous ex), but we hardly ever share photos of her. Someone asked me whether I had him tagged as “family” on Flickr and I almost screamed. What a HORRIBLE idea. I hope to god that he never, ever joins Flickr. How on EARTH would I deal with a situation like that?

Apart from that, you know, my boyfriend (he’s wonderful) used Flickr to explicitly put me and my daughter in his family and – well, that’s just what you’re asking about, and I found it really touching. Kind of like telling his friends and everyone really that hey, this girl’s really important.

By: Yeliz Eseryel

Yeliz Eseryel — Sat, 27 Nov 2004 16:10:53 +0000

Danah,
I will ask for a favor- I know that’s weird. I am doing research on Enterprise Resource Planning Systems Implementations. I am doing my PhD at Syracuse University. I am looking for people to share my ERP blog… Share what we’ve read, where we’ve got stuck, etc. I love your blog and check it out frequently. (I even have you on my links- just to make it easy for me to get to yours actually I figured there might be others who are reading your blog who might be doing research on ERP or Enterprise Systems. Would you maybe copy and paste my request to see if someone would be interested? There are blog fans. There are people interested in ERP. I want to reach people who’re interested in ERP but are also dedicated bloggers.
Thanks in advance and if you don’t feel comfortable about helping me, that’s also fine.
Yeliz.

http://enterprisesystems.blogspot.com/
http://yelix.blogspot.com/

By: Sarah

Sarah — Sat, 27 Nov 2004 07:07:36 +0000

Hi! Thanks for your Ani Difranco lyrics page! She is an amazing artist, and I respect and enjoy her work.

I mainly use AIM and my Weblog to maintain relationships w/ folks from my RL. However, I have ” met” a couple of good folks online and even dated a man whom I met through an online dating service. (But I don’t reccommend this: as it is much more risky than meeting someone in RL)

By: tony

tony — Fri, 26 Nov 2004 20:20:27 +0000

is it any different than hanging x-mas lights,or halloween decorations? we want to signal to others-our beliefs,thoughts,needs. The good old:”I’m here,really I breathe,feel and care.”

I put folks on my lists-because I like them, they seem like good friends or just plain interesting folks.Others because they’re family or co-workers.

By: joe

joe — Fri, 26 Nov 2004 16:12:10 +0000

let me see: With my blogroll I maintain it because I want people to be able to see (most of) who I’m reading. It also allows me to associate myself with them in a hypertext/pagerank sense. If I’ve ever learned anything from someone, I put them up there. I also like to link to a few non-blogs and a couple people with significantly different political opinions. It’s sort of like a mental laundry list with the caviat that I don’t always get to read everything.